Your One Thing
I have a love/hate relationship with Gary Keller’s One Thing philosophy. Mostly because it is in direct conflict with a method to the madness that makes my life function. I operate on a series of checklists that are mundane things that just need to get done and without the list, it just won’t happen. Like laundry or the dishes.
I reread some of the chapters recently. It is a decent beach read while I was figuring a few things out about my life, work, and other things that were all sitting up in the air bothering me. I didn’t like the feeling (I’ve never liked the feeling) and when to get some saltwater into my system to see in there were any better answers after I fully stopped and sat in my uncomfortable feelings.
It was sunny and bright and not super crazy on the beach. That was nice for this time of the summer. I sat there and thought all the questions that I was thinking during the rest of the week but could find no answers within myself for.
I did not get answers to the questions I was asking. I got different questions answered. Still not sure exactly what to do with them.
I also got a nasty sunburn for it in under an hour.
Check your sunscreen to make sure it’s not expired.
Do it, my friends. Please.
I realized that I wasn’t committing in my work as much as I was promising myself I was going to do. Because I’ve done the research and realized that these were the things that I needed to focus on to get further in my career. I needed to put in the miles of walking to get there.
Counterbalancing and Juggling
There’s the chapter about counterbalancing. About pinging back after an intense focus so that you can get done what needs to get done. But what really stuck out in that chapter (Chapter 8 btw) was about the five balls that you’re juggling.
This seems to be a recurring theme in my life to remember that there are things that are more important than work which happens to be how I pay the bills. I’m a pedal to the medal kind of person.
Jumping in full force with a hard jerk on the brakes often enough to make other people nervous about my driving. Granted, I don’t drive that way because that would make me a danger and I’d likely get a ticket. And I really don’t want to pay a fine like that.
I talked about how life is not about doing all the things all the time in Seven Layer Life Dip and that your life is going to have seasons of doing things. I’d gotten that the first time I read the book, but I’d missed the caveat that you can let the work ball drop and that the other four were the most important.
I read it a while ago and thought I understood that lesson so it wasn’t noted at the time.
But life has changed in the last week, the last month, the last year. It’s been a whirlwind of a year and yeah, I’m not a fan of the hard brake and spin to another direction that this year has been.
Pivot in Place
This idea of pivot has been percolating in my mind for a long while. It’s how I left Texas three years ago. It’s how I have solved every problem that’s come at me with a solution that didn’t seem obvious until you’re looking at it in hindsight.
I’ve always been all about the patterns. I see the trends, the collections, the correlation. It makes me happy when I see how all the things come together.
Honestly, when they come up with the fact that I’m an INFJ on a personality test it doesn’t surprise me anymore. The assertive or turbulent is an interesting portion that I haven’t researched enough to have an opinion on it yet.
The Directions Please
I’ve really learned that I need to have to have two sections to my life.
One is work and that is where ‘the one thing’ can do the most for me. It’s a focus point and allows me to really dig in and do.
The other is my personal life, which encompasses everything else. In order to function with the mind that I was given, there is a to-do list. It has little things on it like brush my teeth and wash my hair on wash hair day. It has reminders to at least look at my eyebrows and decide if they are trying to take over my face. If I don’t have it on the list my mind will think I already did it, whether I did it or not.
This list is my 60% list. The one that tells me that as long as I get about 60% of the list done, it was a good day. D’s get degrees, as long as you don’t get too many of them. (We can argue that I could have written fluff pieces for that GOVII class in college but I didn’t*.)
There is no ‘right’ answer for everyone.
There is one for you. You just have to find it.
There really isn’t a set way to do things.
There are just ways to get more done.
There are ways to avoid your distractions so that you can get more out of the time that you are spending doing a specific task.
But there is a way that works for you and that is really what matters. You will find it.
It’s one thing to know that something isn’t working, and that you want to try something else and see if you feel better about yourself afterwards.
It’s one thing to try something else when you have something that works to make sure that it really is the best thing out there for you.
It’s another to think that because it works for XXXX that it will work for you. And that if you don’t do well at it, that you’re a failure.
Nah, you’re just different. We love you anyways. Try something else until it clicks and that thing works. It’ll come with enough trial and error. Edison didn’t get the lightbulb we know today on the first go.
*It is the only D that I am proud of or fully achieved. I had that six weeks in high school from CALC II. That was letting my dad tell me that I had to take all the hard classes all the time. I learned that lesson in college.